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Growth is a process

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Discovering who I’m meant to be is a difficult, ongoing process because until recently I didn’t realize how unhappy and unfulfilled I am. You don’t just wake up one day a butterfly. Growth is a process that can take years. I mean, on a certain level life was what it always was and I didn’t think too much about it. I lived each day in a vacuum, repeating the same motions that got me stuck in the mud in the first place. But I recently learned a secret when I was forced to change my diet for health reasons. And that secret applies to every aspect of my life and makes it easy to accomplish almost any change.

The secret is constancy of purpose. So what does that mean and how is it helping me overcome decades of inertia?

Let me give you an example. I’m in the middle of preparing dinner and I realize I’m missing an important ingredient. It’s storming and raining and freezing outside and the thought of tackling the weather for that one ingredient makes me very unhappy. Now, in the past I would debate with myself “I need that ingredient”. “Yeah well maybe I can do the recipe without it.” “But I really can’t, it’s the main ingredient of the dish.” “Maybe I can prepare something else instead.” “But I don’t have all the ingredients for anything else.”

And this might go on for 15-20 minutes while I search the Internet for recipes and check ingredients, etc.

Life became much easier when I realized that a workaround solution might be something like less thinking and more action. In other words, stop thinking about it Laura Grace. Put on your coat, grab an umbrella, and go get the ingredient.

I used to call it bellyaching. It was really easy to find excuses to avoid just about anything I didn’t want to do. And, hey.. I’m on my own here so I have no one to answer to but me.

When I learned I have some health challenges last year I found it extremely easy to immediately stop my unhealthy diet and adopt a healthy diet and lifestyle. In fact all that mattered was doing it, and finding ways not to never entered my mind. I was scared. There was no such thing as excuses or debates with myself and no time for anything but action. I focused only on the actions I wanted to repeat and gave no thought and no energy to the status quo.

Slowly but surely each day I’m applying the concept of less thinking and more action to every aspect of my life. I’m focusing my energy on what I want and I’m going out and getting it. There’s magic in creating a game plan for your life and then following it, blocking excuses and reasons why you shouldn’t have what you want, regardless of whether it’s an ingredient for a recipe or your heart’s desire.

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  1. Jean Callaway

    May 26, 2022 at 3:07 am

    Beautiful words and great advice we can all put to use. I love this website. It’s what I call, “Feel Good Reading”. Very inspirational.

    1. My Boho Secret

      May 29, 2022 at 7:41 am

      Thank you, it’s lots of fun to write and share. I’m happy to hear my journey is inspirational for you!

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